If you and the members of your family have never run afoul of the law, you are extremely fortunate. It’s a lot easier to become a “criminal” than you may think. Those of us raised in the second half of the last century had a whole different set of rules to live by than exist today.
Young ladies were supposed to be responsible for controlling the impatience of their boyfriends in matters of lust. No matter how insistent his urging, it was all up to the girl to draw the line and not allow him to take advantage. Women who were outraged at that time could, however, slap the face of their tormenter. Today that is battery. You get arrested for that.
In those days when police were called out to a “domestic disturbance” they talked to everyone and chances are, if the man would leave until he cooled off or the woman would forgive him, they would go back to the station and have a cup of coffee, no warrants issued. Today, the woman involved is urged, almost ordered to go to the police department and fill out an affidavit that results in the arrest of her mate. She then is automatically issued a restraining order that prevents him from coming back home to work things out.
If she does decide she wants him back, she has to pay his bail and ask the judge to release the restraining order. This is all well and good if the man was indeed violent and she needs protection from him. On the other hand, when he is just mad and perhaps grips her arm and forces her to turn around and look at him, he has committed battery. If this is the first time he has done this, his wife might be willing to understand the state of mind he was in and let it go. Not so the police. They will gather up the paperwork to lock him up until he pays some money into the coffers and he will be at the mercy of the court through numerous appearances and court dates. When he finally gets sentenced or put on probation, his marriage is over. He may not have anywhere to live and his children will be deemed in need of protection from him.
How things have changed and how “pharasitic” we are. Just like the pharasees of biblical times, we put the law above the intent. Laws intended for use for severely abusive men become tools of persecution when applied to all men that act like fools. And yes, I know we need those laws. I was in an abusive relationship once myself, but if the one strike and you’re out rule is considered to be in the “victim’s” best interest, every man and woman in America will deserve to have a criminal record for some misbehavior they have committed sometime, somewhere.
I don’t want men or women to be beaten up. I want the law and people involved in a fracas to have a little common sense. What—you don’t know what that means? We used to know here in America. Today common sense is very, very uncommon!